Passage to India
I'm off to India tonight - for just a week. My aunt is getting married. It should be fun.
Before I leave, I have come to realization that to my crush, I am not, "good enough." I'm not the trophy girl he would be proud to bring home to his family. I have two big strikes against me:
- divorced (this is huge, a la Hester Pryne in Scarlett Letter)
- Age 29 (too old, why get this old cow when you can get some pretty, perky young girl?).
These are the facts, I know them but it doesn't make the hurt any less (even when my girlfriends say "why would you want to be with someone who had these hang-up's about you?"). Why indeed? I feel like the Michelle Pheffer character from The Age of Innocence. I don't know why this happens to me, but any ideas on how to get over this guy would be most helpful.
In the meantime I'm going to India and enjoying myself. See you next week!!!
posted by Virginia Gal @ 11:30 AM
11 Comments:
there is someone who wants you "as is."
You just haven't met him yet.
If you want to get over him, go out and have fun!
And if you're an old cow, then I'm the last of the woolly mammoths.
If I ever get divorced, I'll ask you out on a date. That's a promise.
Ahem.. we'll probably have to go Dutch but I'm sure we'd have a lot of fun feeding the ducks in the municipality park. :)
The best way to get over anything is to just enjoy yourself with whatevery you are doing now. I'm still impressed with all the travel.
Shits like that are insecure asses and who the hell listens to shits and insecure asses?!?!?
I second Laurie big time!
29 is old? Girl, you need a real man and moving on from him will have you well on your way towards that happening for you!
Have a great trip and live it up! You are young and unattached! That calls for some fun times! Woooohoooo!
First of all get it out of your head that you're damaged goods or too old!! Then get out and have fun!
Hey up. Sorry to hear that you're still agonising over "the crush". Age and status shouldn't matter if two people want to be together. I, of course, have never met you, but based on your online personality alone, I'd ask you out, and I'm only 21.
Have a nice time.
x
Divine - thanks, I do hope you're right, but fear I'm one of those birds that flies solo.
Merci - hee hee, wholly mammoth, I think not! As for the fun part, yes that is a good idea!
POP - oh you are so sweet - I'd love to go out on a date with you, I'm sure we'd end up in some wild and crazy adventure : )
Joe - you are right, must enjoy life more - the travel certainly helps!
Snicks - oh thanks hee hee - I should be more angry at him, yet I can't seem to muster it. Sigh.
Tony - thanks for the kind words, but of course you have to say that, you're my friend. The reality is that I'm old news, unworthy.
Laurie - how I wish it were that I could convince my crush that I am a good match, make him see what you guys all seem to see. India was fun, I came back sick though, aye.
Miz - someone else told me that - that I should live it up, maybe it will help me get over these blues.
Brenda - I so wish I could get it out of my head that I'm old and no good (if you discover a medicine that does that, I'll be first in line to buy). Living it up is the best method of getting over someone, though, no?
Adham - oh thank you, that is so kind - especially that you think my on-line personality is good without even seeing how I look, gives me faith that maybe just maybe being a good person means more than being a young, never been married, super model.
The way to get over him is to make the decision and do it. Decide that he is not deserving of you (it's true) and the pang might go away a bit.
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