Bikini Debate
Totally random but I'm having a debate with some friends about bikini's - see I think that bikini's are exactly like wearing your bra and panties, whereas my friends say that it is different.
To me a bikini covers exactly the same area on the body as one's undergarments - so I don't understand how one can justify these two things being unlike.
As far as I'm concerned, I don't like bikini's - its like trapeezing around in your underwear, in front of your dad or brothers or random male strangers. It creeps me out. Ladies freak out about undressing in stores, but wearing a bikini is the same thing, in some cases actually a bikini is even less material than the underwear. So why the big deal about dressing rooms, why not just change in the store, when trying on clothes??
I pride myself on being liberal and certainly I would not tell you what to wear, but I just think there are limits - isn't the whole thing about a bikini to be sexually alluring in a very in-your-face kind of way; not the thing I would want to be wearing around random men or family male members. Gross.
Am I being a total prude here or is there some validity to my point??
posted by Virginia Gal @ 12:35 AM
15 Comments:
Doesn't sound prudish to me!
I totally agree! some of them seen this year were less than bra & panties!
My grands are not permitted to wear them
Some women just don't care - some women don't freak out in those huge open dressing rooms or in locker rooms or what have you. Some women and men like "clothing optional" beaches and such.
None of this describes me at all, but some people are very comfortable with their bodies, think that its a very natural state, and are proud to wear their bikinis and feel comfortable in them. I kind of admire them, actually, because they don't care what other people think about how they look, they just are who they are. The human body is nothing to be ashamed of really, we just project our own internalized shame and ideals onto it. I chalk up people's comfort levels to how and what we've been taught as children, and how we look at different things . . .
molly wanted to comment this evening, but she was too busy getting into her own two piece bathing suit for a family outing with her parents, brother, brother in law and other random male strangers. she might have an opinion on this if it either merited one or if it were not for the facts that 1)unless you're about to pop out, no one cares what you wear to the pool and 2) she looks a helluva lot better in a two piece than she does a one piece which just leaves her looking like a pale sausage.
happy summer!
I completely agree. This has always been so obvious, and yet, nobody has ever said it 'til now. LOL!
Being gay... the bikini never really did much for me. When others wear it... not me, I mean.
I look FIERCE in a bikini!!!!
:)
UH yes, I can vouch for Tony in a two piece ... it must be seen to be believed.
Several points:
1. Yes, you are being a total prude.
2. There is validity to your point, some people just do not feel right in their underwear, but they are free to wear whatever they want to.
3. I like it, bring on the Brazilian thongs.
First, if you are uncomfortable in a bikini you should definitely not wear one.
But, if a bikini is no different than undies, how is a man's bathing suit different than boxer shorts?
I think it all depends on comfort and culture and so on. I wear a two piece always - a bikini top and either surf shorts or hip-hugger skirted bottoms. I feel all squished and unattractive in a one-piece.
Brenda - thank you dear : )
Mommanator - glad to see others agree : )
Random Kath - very good points about body projection. I didn't think of that...thanks for pointing that out..
Molly - reading your comments has me re-focusing my agreement.
Jen67x - Welcome! And thank you, I am glad to see I am not the only one thinking this.
Adorable Tony - as always you make me laugh.
Pax - Adding to Tony's comment and I'm rolling here.
Joe - Brazilian thong, does such a thing exist?
Citizen - but men's boxer shorts are shorts and are not their underwear, their tighty whity's..
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I don't care much for Speedos on men, either, but that's just me. It is undeniable that bikinis are provocative on women who are shapely, and they don't look very good on women who are not. If you wear one to a family gathering, there will be comments. You probably won't hear them, and you might not care, but there will be comments. And bless the women who don't care. They are the happy ones.
Merci - interesting, yes I too admire women who don't care - wish I could be like them : )
What about men in speedos?
I think it has to do with the setting. When you're on a beach you're allowed to feel less ashamed of your body, because that's what we're used to. Everybody else is wearing a bikini or swimming wear, so we don't feel awkward. While in a shop, it's another environment. People are dressed and you don't want to undress because you'd attract attention to yourself. It's like when I go to the swimming pool's shower. You wouldn't undress in front of some strange women normally, but there it's just what people do and that makes it normal.
I personally don't think we should be afraid or ashamed to be in a bikini, or speedos in public, because our bodies are not shameful. When I hear people saying that nakedness is offensive I think it's nonsense. It's our body! it's natural, it's beautiful. There's nothing shameful or wicked about it.
So yeah, I guess I'm pro bikini. ;)
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