Friday, December 02, 2005


Right so I alluded to this in my previous post. I am obsessing over this guy (my crush as some of you call it, but I swear I feel stronger about him than any other man in the past, at times I'm so frustrated at being so far from him and not knowing how he feels that I start to cry).

This guy is SO out of my league. He is hot, successful, sophisticated, worldly and still religious and cultured. Sometimes I think, "why bother, I'm a guppy and he is a slick blue shark." I can't even believe we are friends and that he continues to stay in touch, I'm such a geek, he is the cool captain of the football team. And yet, I can't entirely give up hope. Probably because I believe in miracles.

Everyday I pray to God to give me this miracle, to make this man fall in love with me, to make him realize that he wants me in his life daily. We believe, in Islam, that everything is done by God. If it doesn't work out with this guy, people will tell me, "it wasn't meant to be." As if somehow in the future, my life with this guy would have been bad. I understand that, but at the same time I say, "God is all-powerful, can't He change the future, can't He make it so I would get my happily ever after?" Is that an outlandish question to pose?

Do you believe in miracles? Could this miracle happen? Is there anything I can do (my obsessive-compulsive behavior coming out) to make it happen?


Blogger JoeinVegas said...

Kind of hard to make it happen, but you do have to be involved and not just trust to God.

Don't sit back, perhaps call and suggest afternoon tea and cake or something. Email once in a while, nothing gushy but just about something you read, have online conversations if you can't see him.

Biggest mistake would be in just waiting for something without trying.

9:37 AM  
Blogger Random Kath said...

I am in total agreement with Joe . . . you have to try . . . step up the communications a bit, but try to keep it light. I know that sounds hard, especially if you are totally gaga over the dude, but just keep it friendly.

Besides, there is no such thing as "out of your league" . . . get that phrase out of your vocabulary! The question should be, "Is this guy worthy of me . . . is his presence adding a positive to my life and would I add one to his?"

You are too awesome a person to be out of anyone's league . . .

10:02 AM  
Blogger PaxRomano said...

OK Honey, a couple of things:

FIRST: If this guy and you do hook-up the miracle will be on his part, because he will now have someone as beautiful, and zesty and bright as you in his life! Never forget that!

SECOND: I can't speak for Islam, but as a young Catholic boy, I would see women lighting candles at the church and praying with every fiber of their being, and making "Novenas" to certain Saints (A novena is a kind of pledge) all in the hopes of finding a husband! So every religion has this kind of belief in it I suppose.

THIRD: Of course I don't really know you, but what I suspect is that you are infatuated with this guy. The only way you are ever going to know if he's interested in you is to lay your cards on the table. If he's plays then, good for you, your work is cut out for you. If he does not, then: oh well, his loss!

FINALLY: Just remember, any man who is lucky enough to end up with you will have to deal with your Blogger Family: That's right, sister, we are going to have to meet your prince charming and size him up, because NO BODY dates OUR Virginia Gal, with out THIS family making sure he is top drawer!

10:10 AM  
Blogger Tony said...

At this risk of getting sued by Garth Brooks, some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.

Maybe Prince Charming isn't fallen in love with you because he's NOT THE ONE. Maybe there is a great incredible sexy guy out there for you and you just havent crossed paths with him. yet.

He's out there for you babe.... no matter if he is Stud #1 or Stud #2. Hes out there.

Love ya

11:07 AM  
Blogger Merci said...

One of three things will happen:
1. Your dream will come true and everything will be great
2. You'll meet someone else and forget all about him in an instant
3. You'll lose interest in him and wonder what you saw in him in the first place

So you really can't lose.

I know, it's the waiting that's hard. The only way to speed things up is to have more contact with him and/or to go places (mosques, charitable groups, political groups, etc.) where you'll meet more single men who share your interests.

You brighten up the days of your fellow bloggers. Don't worry, some lucky guy will be charmed by you, too!

6:36 PM  
Blogger o0ohso0ocrazy said...

first off i promise i wont tell my family about this.second of all i do believe in miracles.and third off DO I know him?!jk!aww don't you worry.he wants you just as bad!;)!

7:55 PM  
Blogger Belinda said...

Girl, I have seen just *bits* of your heart, and NOBODY is "out of your league!" So crush THAT noise right now.

Anyway, as another praying/believing in God's will person, I think the prayer I would pray would be something like this:

"God, I am having strong feelings about this person. I would like to know if those feelings are coming from you or from me. If this man is right for me, show me by having things fall into place. Help me to open the right doors, and close the wrong ones firmly. If this man is NOT in YOUR plan for me, show me that as well, and help me to see what action *I* may take to discover your true will for my life. If a romantic development is not to be for a while longer, I pray that you ease my anxiety about it, and show me how, by my own thoughts and actions, to gain peace regarding that."

Um, wow, that was long. But I tell you what, it's what I'll pray for you!

1:54 AM  
Blogger Molly Malone said...

And I will pray that for you, as well.

11:43 AM  
Blogger Laurie said...

What everyone else has said - no one it "out of your league"!

I've always believed in "if it was meant to be, it will be". Is that Islamic?

But don't just sit back and wait; praying is good, but you need to be a little more proactive :-)

Good luck..

12:23 PM  
Blogger Tony said...

Why is Belinda seeing "bits?"

What the hell kinda porno blog you got here?

*covers eyes*

10:42 PM  
Blogger Virginia Gal said...

Joe - good advice,I shall try not to just sit back, that is usually my M.O.
Random Kath - thanks for the words of praise, not sure if I'm worthy of them, but thanks all the same :)
Pax - oh goodness, lay all my cards out there, that leaves you so exposed, others have told me to do that also, but I'm not sure. It is so scary. Thanks for the kind words also - I'm glad I have such a lovely Blog family.
Tony - as usual you make me laugh - thanks!
Merci - I hope it is answer number 1, but you are right, the three things that could happen are all not so bad, when put in the larger picture.
Naema - thanks for not saying anything and no you don't know him, he's in London :)
Belinda - oh I love that prayer, I do hope that if this isn't meant to be, God will give my heart some ease, as you say 'reduce my anxiety.'
Molly - thanks for the prayers :)
Laurie - oh goodness, proactive, aye, that is a tough one, I'm SO not good with boys/men. It's funny others have said also that I need to be proactive - I'm sensing a pattern :)
Tony - ha ha :)

7:36 AM  
Blogger Belinda said...

Tony, not all "bits" are NAUGHTY bits, you perv. ;-)

2:51 PM  

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